Peace Just Today

The world overwhelms
My doubt overcomes
But the weight of Your Glory
Gives me peace
The noise of this world
Crowds out Your Whispers
But the nudge of Your Spirit
Guides me still
Senseless knowledge
Vain pursuits
Call me to wander
But You hold me still

Where can I go
Always You’re with me
In the darkness of doubt
Your light calls me home

Undignified, unqualified
Unsure of so much
But holding fast
to follow Your will

Your house, I can’t build
In flesh You built mine
Wrapped in humanity
To suffer and die

Risen, redeemed
My doubt overcomes
The help of Your Spirit
The love of Your Son

meditations from 2 Samuel

You are Ruining Your Kids


Her hair was slicked back out of her face. Her eyes showed the kind of tired that one night’s sleep wouldn’t make up for. Her tears came as easily as her laughter.

She’d come over to get out of the house with her three kids under four.
“I’m just worried I’m going to ruin my kids!” She said echoing the fears I’ve swallowed back myself. The fear that formed alongside my first daughter and never left. It planted when I first laid eyes on her mustard seed shape. She was a striking white dot of life against the flat black ultrasound screen.

“I give you permission to just survive,” I said, making sure my eyes met hers.
She needed that permission. Permission to breathe—to breathe in the baby smells and soak up the belly laughs. She needed permission to turn off her “perfect parent” switch and just take it all in.

I think we all need this reminder. While I think it’s important—necessary, to be intentional about our parenting, I think it is equally necessary for our souls, for our kids’ souls, to offer them the ministry of presence.

The ministry of presence happens when we stop thinking about how we should parent, we lay down our fears of forming them for the future, we get out of our own analytical heads and we just live life with them…

…we listen to their big questions and don’t provide an easy answer

….we lick ice cream cones with them

…we laugh at ourselves

…we experience emotions in a healthy way–not swallowing them or exploding, but letting our kids see the way we work through the real and necessary emotions of life

…we cry…we laugh…we laugh-cry (it’s totally a real thing just ask my husband)

…we admit when we’re angry, frustrated, exasperated…HANGRY!

…we get dirt and play dough under our fingernails

…we experiment

…we let our kids comfort us
…we let them kiss us a thousand times
…we let them cry on our shoulder without trying to tell them what to think or try to cheer them up.

… we cry with them and ask life’s hard question

I need to slap duck tape over the mouth of the imaginary critic that lives in my head and zoom in, up close, really close to each passing moment with my children. This is scary. It means laying down my plans and my parenting books and letting our messy life unfold in an unpredictable and chaotic way.

But I find that sometimes the best parenting moments happen when I sit on top of a question mark with my girls as we ponder the world– rather than stamping our life with the tidy period that marks things as resolved.

I love a clean house as much as the next person.
I love finished thoughts. I love questions with answers.
I love when a task is as easy as a check mark on a list.

But parenting isn’t any of these things? It’s untidy and unfinished? It cannot be contained in an answer? It is ongoing? (My grammar-check is trying to get me to change these question marks?)

We need to worry about ruining our kids, a little. Just like you’ve got to smell week-old chicken, it’s important to smell our kids to make sure they aren’t spoiled—kidding. But seriously.

But we can’t stay in that place. Once we test our intentions, methods, and goals—once we seek wise advice, and heck yes, once we pray—then we need to roll with it. We need to zoom in and enjoy the messy and complicated reel of parenthood.

Let’s sit on question marks with our kids, ask them our own questions as we figure out life together. Let’s love fiercely and show up with our whole messy selves, trusting that God works in our strengths, but He also works through us in our glorious imperfections.

We will ruin our children (a bit). The Bible reminds us that we’re all cracked pots. But God remakes us and repurposes us. With Him, even our biggest (parenting) mistakes can be repurposed for His greatest good. Amen?

Disclaimer: I am writing this to the parent that is providing love, support, shelter, food, and spiritual guidance to their children but still wrestling with guilt over not being/doing enough. We all agree that our first priority is to be responsible parents that provide for the emotional and physical needs of a child in a supportive and stable home.

God Can Hold Our “Anythings”

God is feeling so big in my heart right now that it’s hard to go through the every day motions of washing dishes, listening to Umi Zumi stream in the background, vacuuming up dirt and tiny specs of glitter and sequins—the dress-up leftovers of two girls’ epic game of pretend.

I started reading a book called “Anything,” by Jennie Allen.

The question she poses goes something like this:
If this world is all we have, then why are we living so morally and well behaved?
But if God is real, then why aren’t we living like it? Why aren’t we pouring out our hearts, lives, passions, and possessions on God’s altar, and living all-the-way for HIM?

Why? Because I don’t want to be a zealot.
zealot (noun): a person who is fanatical and uncompromising in pursuit of their religious, political, or other ideals.

((“Because I don’t want to be a zealot,” the pastor’s wife said (and the congregation snickered.))

My feet are here in the mess of right now, but the spiral of pain and the difficulties of this life are out of my control. So my heart gets on tiptoes and tries to peek into God’s glory. I pray, “God give me more of you,” and it makes my head buzz with hope. But then this world keeps spinning in its pragmatic pattern. My tiny world keeps reeling from the same soundtrack of chores, and errands, books, and bedtime. It’s so hard to contain God’s glory in this ordinary life.

Mary had her feet planted on a dirt floor when she had a vision. When the angel left she had to go about the every day tasks of right now. Maybe she rubbed her eyes and wondered if it was real after her wonder wore off. But God grew inside her until she couldn’t ignore Him any longer.

I will keep doing these ordinary things, knowing God came in the most ordinary way.
But I will also lift my hands to Heaven, and shout, “Anything, Lord!” Have your way with my heart and life. And then I will doubt and try to take it back again. But it is already out there, my heart waits tentatively in the light, trusting that this great God will also be gentle and kind as he shepherds my lost heart home.

“Amen! Praise and glory and wisdom and thanks and honor and power and strength be to our God for ever and ever. Amen!” Revelation 7:12 (NIV)

“Anything,” starts with a tentative whisper, then grows like a fire in our belly, until we long for a story that is greater than our own plans can contain. A God we can cradle, yet whose glory our hearts cannot even grasp, yes this God is capable of everything—and we can be confident that He can hold our, “anything.”

Keep Your Eyes On…The Road

So maybe I was breaking the law, but the text was urgent, and I was stopped at a red light. At least that’s how I justified it in my mind. The light turned green and I was startled by my daughter in the backseat.

“Mom! Drive! You’re supposed to be driving!”
“I am driving.”
“No you were looking at your phone.”
“The light was red. It was important. Besides, its not your job to tell me how to drive.”
Then she threw my own words back at me. The words I’d said dozens of times as the reason I couldn’t get a toy she or her sister dropped under my seat, or dig to find the exact snack one of them wanted to eat that very moment.
“Mom you’re job is to keep us safe.”
I was stunned silent. Then she repeated the very words I say to her Father if he tries to touch his phone when he’s driving us.
“Nothing is more important than keeping your eyes on the road.”

As a wife, as a mom, as a human, I am a walking contradiction. Even when I try my best, my ideals never match perfectly with how I live them out. I give into itching fingers that grab my phone when I should be present with the person in front of me. I sneak chocolate before dinner and I don’t eat something from every food group for every meal. There’s been nights when I’m too tired for bedtime routines, and wind up falling into bed without brushing my teeth, or even putting on proper pajamas. I don’t always say please, or thank you, and I certainly don’t forgive the instant someone tells me too.

But I don’t need another measuring stick, in the form of my daughter, ticking off all the ways I don’t measure up. I have enough reminders in the form of well-meaning Christian blogs, Pinterest, and my own critical voice, that remind me that I’m missing the mark, thank-you-very-much.

She’s right in a way, I shouldn’t bother with a text when I’m driving, but yet her words feel like stones.

Maybe it’s not about me, after all. I realize that maybe this conversation isn’t to show me where I’m falling short, but to remind me that she’s actually listening—and that I am communicating important values to her even when I don’t realize it. But I want to instill more in her than just the a black and white sketch of right and wrong, but love and faith— the colors that breathe the very purpose and life to everything she sees.

It reminds me of a God who gave his people a list of guidelines on how to live, but by the time Jesus is on the scene, He sees that many religious groups have stretched and morphed the commandments to regulate every aspect of Jewish life. The rules were very clear, but their purpose had become diluted and distorted—like a misshapen shadow of the thing it once was. But Jesus would have none of it. No, of all the religious leaders he insisted on the integrity of the law, the heart of the law, and for Jesus it wasn’t found in the bleeding hearts of self-righteous men on self-made pedestals, but in the context of love and relationship. In the Gospel, we see a drama playing out between the Pharisees living a life of impossible standards, and Jesus and His disciples, who live lives of obedience fueled by love.

I don’t make rules about driving for the sake of rules, but to keep those I love safe. It’s the same reason I cook vegetables, limit TV time, and say “no,” according to my daughter, “all the time.” I love my kids, and I wants what’s best for them, even when that means tough parenting and inconvenient rules, steamed vegetables and cranky kids that aren’t lulled to apathetic silence by “just one more” show on the TV. My love means being a mother becomes more than just a job, but a calling. A calling that flows from love, and fuels everything I do.

I want my daughters to know the difference between right and wrong, and yet, I want them to live that out in the context of loving relationships. I want them to live a life of calling because of their love of God; a life that is fueled by a faith that means so much more than a legalistic book of whats right and whats wrong.

I quietly keep my eyes on the road a minute without responding to my daughter’s directives as I decide where to start.

“Bree, thank you for reminding mommy of the rules I have for driving. You’re right, I shouldn’t be on my cell phone when I drive.”
“You’re welcome,” she responds, self satisfied.
“In the future mommy will decide when its okay for me to use my phone when we’re in the car though.”
“But can you tell me why mommy makes those rules in the first place?”
“Because I love you. I love you so much that I will do everything I can to keep you safe. And do you know who else loves you?”
“God loves you. And thats why God gives us rules too. Because more than anything else in the world, He wants us to love him back.”

She didn’t respond, but a dimple in her brow formed like a cog in a turning wheel. I knew it wouldn’t all click into place right now, but like the rules that I repeat over and over, I want to remind her about my love, and God’s love, so that she knows that to be the most important part.

A Living Eulogy


A Living Eulogy to My Father on His 70th Birthday

I’ve only been to one funeral. A Father who was taken from his daughters, way too soon. I was struck by the powerful stories that his two young daughters, both still in college, shared about the way he had shaped their hearts and lives. I wondered if he knew. I know he knew the satisfaction and pride that comes with watching his kids grow into who they were meant to be, but did he know how much he contributed to that?

So you’re turning 70. I figure you’ve got a good 15+ years left, with plenty of vitamins and tequila to embalm your old organs, you could get a good 20-25 more. But since your old eyes won’t be able to read this small text, and your memory will eventually go to pot, I figured I’d just lay it all out for you now. I hope you’re amused by the tact of my dark British humour.

Since mom got to care for my more practical needs like keeping me fed, washed, clothed, and safe from imminent danger, my first memories with you are enjoying life.

I remember a lot of dancing. Not just a little butt wiggle or shoulder shimmy, but the blasting music, climb on tables and couches, all-out party, kind of dance.

I want you to rest assured that I have passed this ritual onto my daughters. Nathan was opposed at first, but our family room table has now become a platform for Bree’s and Elyse’s after dinner dance performances, ending in the nightly ritual of me leading a conga line throughout the house.

I remember you talking to me like I was an adult when I was as young as five-years-old. I never questioned if you were feeding me a lie, and you certainly didn’t bother with dumbing down words. The most obvious and memorable example, of course, is when you refused to play a silly game with us kids, responding, “I will not engage in your childish endeavors.”

We would have serious conversations about life, and I never felt like you were belittling my feelings or talking down to me. I see the conversations I now have with Bree, and they remind me of our talks. I don’t think I realized how much I was becoming like you, until one day during one of Bree’s tantrums, I threw up my hands and said, “Bah! You’re being grossly overreactive!”

I believe I am a writer because of, and in spite of you. Because of course, you weren’t afraid to tell me that my writing was crap. Every good writer needs a good editor, and you were mine. From the first poem I wrote at ten-years-old, when you read it and shook your head, “No, this doesn’t make any sense,” to the hours you put into poring over my high school papers, you were always willing to spend time with my work. I remember the smug pride I felt my senior year of college when you told me for the first time, “this doesn’t need a single edit, I don’t know if you need me anymore.” You didn’t just approve of my writing because I was your daughter, but you challenged me to look at my work honestly and pushed me to tirelessly improve.

You are my spiritual mentor. This isn’t because you are some kind of saint. Hardly. But that’s the beauty of it. Through all your cracks, you let God shine through. You went to church in the best of times, and in the worst of times. When we didn’t go to church you would have us all gather on the floor in your bedroom and read the Bible with us and pray. I remember poking you in church one time because your eyes were squeezed shut. I thought you’d fallen asleep. But you put a finger to your lips and shook your head, “Shhh. I’m praying.” Then I put my elbows on my knees, squeezed my eyes shut and tried to pray. I think I fell asleep.

You talked openly about guardian angels, and Satan, and God’s return and new creation. I still remember sitting on the faded grey, velvet couch when you tried to explain that I shouldn’t live like I was, “of this world.” It sounded ridiculous. But I trusted your words were seeds of wisdom that I tucked away, hoping someday they would make sense. Now as I read my girls the Bible and teach them about our faith, your words come back to me. The truths that you sewed in me when many would have thought I was too young to understand, have been growing roots, that now support my faith—faith that I now share with my daughters—knowing that though I’m not a saint either, but I trust that there’s power in speaking God’s truth to them too.

As you can see, you’ve had a bit of an impact, because of, and in spite of who you are. God is good like that. So now you think you get to rest? No. Since this is a living eulogy, I get to say a word of prayer over the next 20+ years.

Father God,

I pray my dad’s soul would dance.
I pray that he could let go of agendas, expectations, and to-dos,
That he would dance with joy before you.
I pray He would delight in you, and invite others to do the same.
I pray he would find soul-filling rest,
That he would challenge those around him, in a spirit of love and unity.
I pray that he would find a place to use his gifts and share your truth,
Even when it seems like no one understands and is listening,
That you would use him to sew seeds deep within hearts.
I pray for satisfying work, for abundant fruit, and joy.
I pray that he would lay his fears before you,
That you would break the chains of self-doubt and need for control,
So that he can walk in step with You on the path You have already carved out for him.
Lord, we know he wants to leave a legacy.
Help him to see the legacy he has already left,
Help him to invest in them.
Help him to show up, to be honest, and available,
To continue to be the living example of imperfect progress,
Of human weakness and contradiction that’s redeemed by your grace,
As a living sacrifice and testament to your power and truth.

In Jesus Name

How to Get Through the Hard Anxious Day

I’m doing something a little different today. Instead of waiting until I feel cleaned up and inspired, I’m coming to you in the midst of an anxious day. I woke up, and instead of feeling clear-headed and optimistic, my mind feels a bit jumbled, everything around me seems a bit blurred at the edges. I can’t explain why, but my heart feels in a state of unrest. This would normally be a day that I would avoid writing altogether, and especially social media–or I would look at my newsfeed and wonder how everyone else always seems to have it all together. 

Let’s be messy together.

I’m inviting you into my messy space right now. Dishes are in my sink, my coffee is cold, and there are trails of toys throughout the house. The kids are bickering in the background, blasting their favorite Jana Alayra song, “Jump Into The Light” and tossing brightly bedazzled dress-up dresses like confetti.

It’s spring break which has been hard for my anxiety-prone brain. I do better with routines and plans, instead of long, lazy stretches of undesignated time. I feel restless and unsatisfied. Amidst these confusing contradictions, my heart feels weighed down with the needs of kids, unmade meals, and unmade beds. My mind feels on constant overload with kids buzzing underfoot looking for new ways to make messes, and asking for a snack every fifteen minutes. The worst though is the guilt that pokes at the back of my mind, inviting in the other bully, shame. Yes amidst the hard anxious feelings, the worst of all might be the guilt that shames me when I don’t feel grateful, satisfied, and serenely peaceful with my circumstances.

I am grateful and satisfied with my life, and God offers me peace again and again as I enter into hard places. But that doesn’t mean that I always feel grateful, content, and peaceful every day, in every moment. 

So here we are, in this mess of life together, with tangled emotions and untidy hearts. I could wrap all these hard emotions and struggles up in a tidy bow of encouragement, but I won’t.

Instead, I’d like to tell you that these days will come. I believe there are ways we can walk through the hard feelings and unsettled nerves of these days, and allow God and others to walk beside us. I believe that these hard days might be the places where God is shaping us for His greater purposes. 

Here are a couple thoughts that are helping me get through this day. I hope they can help you too.

Be honest with those around you.  If you feel messy and uncertain, then invite others in and let them speak truth to your heart. This could include your children. When I have an anxious day I will tell my family, “today is a hard day.” My four-year-old daughter will nod with a look of concern, and love. She’ll hug me and remind me “Jesus loves me.” My husband will give me more understanding and grace. I try to offer myself more grace and space as I move throughout this tender kind of day.

Colossians 3:16 “Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.” (NIV)

Be Honest with God. I find it hard to pray when I’m having a hard day. My prayers come out as run-on sentences and unfinished thoughts. But God doesn’t need me to have it all together. He doesn’t need a pretty prayer to meet me–I believe He wants all of me, in whatever place my heart is at. Jesus himself prayed in soulful shouts and desperate pleas.

On the hard days, moving through the long hours is an act of obedience to God; obedience when I give my heart to Him each time my thoughts threaten take me down a dark winding path; obedience when I show love to people around me even when it doesn’t flow from me effortlessly. On these hard days, from my first breath to my last waking thought, my prayer never ends. As I wrestle to turn my face to Him again and again, my day becomes a living, breathing prayer.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (NIV)

Serve others. There are some days when all I can do is tend to the people God has placed right in front of me. I need to accept my limitations and set healthy boundaries. Then there are the days when the best thing I can do is get outside myself. Sometimes talking to a friend that’s struggling, sitting and reading silly stories to my kids, or cooking a delicious dinner for my family is the best thing I can do to get out of my own head.

Take His power in place of your weakness. (2 Cor. 12:9) Once this hard day is over, we’ll be wiser, stronger, and more compassionate. We are empowered by Jesus who entered into the weakest, hardest places in order to bring reconciliation and grace. I remember that somehow, by God’s power, he can use my anxious mind to grab hold of Jesus more and more–and by some kind of miracle, He can use my brokenness to make others feel wholly loved through Him.

So join me in entering into this vulnerable place, friend. This world means social media, and surface conversations, polite smiles, and hidden truths, but we can crack open these exteriors and let His love seep into the secret hurts and struggles that need His healing. It starts with being honest in front of God and others. My prayer for you and I is that we find space and time for that. I pray that we embrace the slow sacred work that He does in our hearts, minds, and lives, even in these hard, anxious days.

Believe it or Not: This Time Will Pass

Dear Reader & Friend,

I’m sorry I haven’t been writing to you. Life has been full with good things and a to-do list that seems to undo itself–a house that seems to unclean itself each week. But you get it. You feel the same way, having trouble finding time to pause, and breathe in God’s goodness; time to think and ponder and dream. I pray you find time for those life-giving activities this weekend. 

I felt a pressing truth I needed to squeeze in a moment to tell you.


This time will pass of waiting with questions, and answers that are too big for you to wrap your thoughts around.

This time will pass of mind-numbing work, wondering if you’re making a difference.

This time will pass of sleepless nights and foggy days, up round the clock feeding a needy human that pulls the life from your tired body.

This time will pass of tension in your home–thick silence as you wade in the muddy water of hurt and resentment.

This time will pass of sticky kisses, and “Mommy I want you,” and “Hold me.”

This time will pass of aching uncertainty, chest heavy with rocks, minutes passing like gravel through your tender heart.

This time will pass of “honey I’m too tired,” or “let’s sneak away,” like school children stealing a few sacred minutes together.

This time will pass when you feel called to something greater, but tied to something that’s needed. 

This time will pass of arms and legs pulled in every direction, lap always full, your body never your own.

This time will pass of childlike enthusiasm, curious questions, and “just one more” story.

This time will pass of a confusing blur of doctor appointments and medicine, side effects, and charts of numbers to explain your painful reality.

This time will pass of holding hands, and wrinkling your nose as you laugh at an inside joke, looking at each other with certain love, and fragile hope.

This time will pass of feeling breathless from a pain too big to feel at once, and loss too big to ever fill.

This time will pass of hoping and trying, and waiting, and testing–the crush of another negative, the painful push to keep trying.

This time will pass of disappointment, of resentment and hurt, of unmet expectations, and longing…

This time will pass of smallness, of innocence, of dreaming, and planning…

This moment, in its mundaneness, its beauty, its pain, its plainness–it will pass.

It will all come to pass.

So we must rub our sleepy eyes, and pay attention. We must tie our heart to the present, and offer our presence, to show up, to love, and to trust that each moment is writing a beautiful story of redemption and grace, woven into the greatest love story ever written. 




I am with you now.
In the wandering, in the waiting;
when your plans didn’t work out.
When your dreams aren’t coming true.

I’m with you in the uncertain space.
Where there are more questions,
than answers.
Where your fears feel bigger than,
your hope.

I’m with you although you feel all alone,
It might surprise you,
but you aren’t the only one;
that’s longing, searching, praying,
for things that are bigger than you can dream.

Longing for understanding;
searching for meaning;
praying for more.

But in this quiet moment,
As you hush the stirrings deep within you,
Let your heart long for more
than you could ask or imagine,
and yet,
Let your soul rest in His ENOUGH.

Knowing, believing, praying,
that when He says “IT IS FINISHED,”
that means His work in us,

And it is very good.

For a Friend

For a friend,
I would move mountains for you if I could,
I’d cross a river, a sea, my love,
to bring your wandering heart home.

But I know thats not what you need,
I know that this is your battle,
That I must love from afar, and stand watch.

So I will be a bird, perched outside your window,
Singing you songs of light and love,

I will be the soundless whispers of love,
In the dark pitched night.

I will fight for you by never giving up on your heart,
By cradling it and lifting it to God who will,
Breathe it back to life.

I will wait for you, hurt for you, hope for you,
Quietly, without expectation, knowing that,
Your heart needs to be scattered, and broken,
To make a path home.

I Fall Short as a Parent…& Why That’s Good

Her face turned on itself, going a shade of red, as globe-like tears slid down her cheeks. Guilt entered and sat on the couch of my conscience, heavy and unmoving like an unwelcome guest. It was too late, the harsh yells had already ripped out of my throat, still burning and bitter in my mouth. But I saw my little girl with the wounded look in her eyes, and forgot my anger like a lost penny.

I opened my arms up and picked up her damp, warm body, her four-year-old frame was swaddled in a towel. I was the reason for her tears, and yet she nuzzled in my neck for comfort and protection.

It had been a long day stuck at home. Our family has been trying to go gluten-free and so my head hurt and I was irritable. More than that, as the girls giggled and splashed, carefree in the bath, I had been reading about the blood bath of another high school shooting in Florida. When Bree resisted getting out of the tub, after my fourth request, I lost my composure. I gave in to my temper, like you give into a donut, a satisfying rush in a moment of weakness.

My vision blurred, and I let out a command that was half growl, half yell, “Get out of the bath NOW!” It wasn’t the words exactly, but the volume and intensity that they came out of my mouth that communicated a level of anger and frustration that I show only in my most unflattering moments.

After our bath time incident, we silently went about the rest of our bedtime routine until it was time to pray together. I couldn’t just act like it didn’t happen. I didn’t know the perfect thing to say, as a mother who found myself acting more like the child. I’ve never been the kind of mom that kept up the pretense that I’m always right or perfect, rather I keep an open dialogue with my girls about how much I have to learn, and how much I mess up; even when it comes to being a mom. So I just let words tumble out, hoping God would season them with grace, like He seasons my salty soul.

“Bree, mommy just talked to you in a way that no one should talk to you. I yelled in a way that I’m ashamed of, and I’m sorry.” 

Having been trained by her dad, how we can extend forgiveness to one another, she uttered in her small person voice.”I forgive you mommy.”

“Thank you. If I get angry and shout like that again, which I probably will, is there a word you can use with me to help me remember this conversation?”

A beat of silence then she answered with resolve, “Please stop, I don’t like it. Its not okay mama.”

“What Bree?”

“I’m practicing. I will tell you to stop mom, and that I don’t like it. Because its not okay when you talk to me like that.”

Her words surprised me, but they also made me proud. I was expecting some small code word, but here it was—she was doing as I asked, telling me that talking to her like that wasn’t okay.

Its not okay. She is an innocent child and her heart is meant to be loved and protected. But yet, in this moment I realized that it is in the small act of being vulnerable, admitting my weakness, that I can let God enter in to do His sacred and unseen work.

I imagine her saying those words when a friend tries to belittle her with shaming words, when a boyfriend tries to touch her in a a way that is violating, when someone treats her in a way that invalidates her, or makes her question her worth.

Parenthood is the way that we model healthy relationship with our children. But, that doesn’t mean a healthy relationship is free of misunderstanding, dissatisfaction, anger, and conflict. Rather, we live out a healthy relationship when we unflinchingly face these challenges, and still show up and love each other. As a mother I’m tempted to shush and silence the inconsistencies and imperfections in my relationship with my daughters, but in the end, I know it feels inauthentic. While small and imperceptible, I know that they ultimately create giant gaps in out closeness to one another.

For me to show up as a mom, I need to show up all the way—flaws, and failings and all. Its in this vulnerability that I trust that God will work good in me and through me. I trust that God will work good, in all the ways He’s made me good, but even more beautiful and unfathomable, is knowing and trusting that He will accomplish good even when I fall terribly short.
Its not okay. Its not okay to trade our pretense of human perfection for His ultimate perfection that is accomplished only when we realize, as parents, as children, as husbands or wives, that we can’t get everything right. Its in this admission that we’re free to be ourselves more authentically, to truly be present and honest, and to let God do the work that only He can do.

Psssst! I’m trying to grow my readership so I can get traditionally published, kind of a major feat these days. So if you like what you’re reading and think others will benefit…it really helps me out if you share with your friends! xo